My friend Garrett and I chat about her experiences as a military spouse, from advocating with MSJDN, to living alone during employments, to the community she belongs to and hopes improves even as she moves on to different adventures.  Pairs nicely with a tumbler of ice, a cold drink, and…

In this episode I'm joined by  Laura ( @laurels413 ), Nic ( @yellingintothelegalvoid ) and  Amanda ( @charmedatlaw ) to chat the complexities of dating when you're a successful lady lawyer. Are we picky? Or have the apps got us a little un-hinged? Pairs nicely with the whiskey y…

**Content Warning** This episode contains descriptions of violence, including sexual, racial, and religious, trauma, and threats of harm. Be kind to yourself in choosing to listen. Jennifer ( @PDXJenni ) joins me to talk about her arrest in July, 2020, in Portland, Oregon, how SCOTUS …

This episode I'm joined by my friends Harumi ( @helloharumi  aka  @angrybabylawyer ) and Nissa ( @adustierstar  /  RufusJHC ) to drink and get progressively angrier about the absolute ridiculous double standard we face as female law students and lawyers being treated as if we can'…

In this episode, I'm joined by my friends Harumi ( @helloharumi  aka  @angrybabylawyer ) and Ian ( @lawblrwithalcohol ) to chat ADHD, when the world isn't built for you, and what it's like when you can't pull the break on your brain.  If you want to check out internal …

In this episode, I'm joined by my friends Garrett ( @_gcnif ) and Marissa ( @marrissafish )  to chat about marriage, divorce, and bringing your lawyer brain home with you.  A Content Warning: Several of our clients/colleagues have died, and if that's not something you want to li…

I think I always thought of book clubs as "old ladies read smut" or "annoying people read High Brow Literature and talk about it rudely." It never occurred to me that I could have a book club where we just... read what we wanted? And talk about if we enjoyed it?  So I…

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Harumi ( @helloharumi  aka @angrybabylawyer ) while we scream about the good and the bad of Gideon the Ninth, what makes a good and a bad fantasy story, and why lawyers can't just read books for fun.  Pairs nicely with whiskey in a coffe…

In this episode, I'm joined by my friends Ian ( @lawblrwithalcohol ) and Emily ( @mledayc  / @emdayc ) to swap stories about how hobbies keep us sane, making time for them with a busy legal practice, and how our goblin brains can't help but love shiny things.  Pairs nicely with …

In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Nissa ( @adustierstar ) to chat about her life post-cult  after trying to make "the law thing" work for her. She tells me when she knew lawyering wasn't right for her, why she tried to make it work anyway, and whether a JD reall…

In this episode, I'm joined by my friends Ian ( @lawblrwithalcohol ) and Harumi ( @angrybabylawyer ) to pick their brains on how they balance their litigation lifestyle with their faith.  As someone who is firmly agnostic - we could probably define my beliefs as 'there is somet…

In the late months of my pregnancy, I presented a legitimate offer to settle to my client and advised him it would make financial sense to accept it. He accused me of having gone soft because of my pregnancy. Because the opposing party was a woman. How nice of him.  I didn't really…

Every now and again I google how many days it has been since March 13, when I took everything I needed from my office and told my boss I'd be back in person when all of this was over. At the time, my daughter wasn't even six months old. She was this tiny little precious blob who w…

I always liked Aaron Sorkin shows. He always asks this question and he always answers it. To watch the Newsroom, you have to believe that in the end, humanity is truly comprised of fundamentally good people who have lost our way but can be guided back to what made us great. I write to y…

Feminism is not just about ‘Leaning In’ and becoming rich and powerful, but also about the women we bring up with us. So my amazing Feminist Legal Theory professor once said this to a classroom full of soon-to-be female lawyers, and it has stuck with me ever since.  I often wonde…

Can we talk for a minute about how emotionally draining it can be to be both a good person and a lawyer? My job as a lawyer has, on more than one occasion, conflicted with my moral desire to help people. I am not a saint by any means. I am a tool. People wield me and my skills in the sa…

September brings with it the sight of new classmates, the smell of notebooks, and the feeling of fresh school supplies. Or, you're a lawyer who graduated three years ago and September just brings with it the feelings of "well, shit, summer's over and what do I do now?"…

I have not felt like a successful lawyer lately. And I haven't felt like a successful wife either. And on top of it all, I have been an absolutely unsuccessful writer.  I started this blog with the intention of writing more fully about some of the questions I get quite regularly …

Most lawyers will tell you that law school teaches you very little about the actual practice of law. In fact, most of what law school is designed to do is change the way you think; to make you think like a lawyer. They achieve this by breaking you as soon as practicable when you are a ba…

Happy Halloween! This year, I contemplated dressing up as an enormous pile of student debt, but then I realized that would scare the parents more than the kids. I'll just be a zombie instead. I already have the dark circles anyway, may as well lay into it.  I thought that life af…